|Anonymous asked: when people try and tell me that because I comment on aesthetic attraction I'm not ace, so I just turn around and say "you said that baby was cute, you must really be a pedophile!"|
THAT IS THE BEST RESPONSE I HAVE EVER SEEN everyone use this.
Been thinking a lot about fem(me)inine identity lately;
I think I’ve settled into a place where femininity/masculinity are pretty divorced from femaleness/maleness
as; anyone can be feminine and not be a woman, or be masculine and not be a man (assuming most people are some…
Just for the record, I don’t think the questions I’m posing here *can* be answered in any concise/atemporal way…they’re more meant to help people further their understandings of their own & others’ genders than to get at some kind of consistent definition of male/female/feminine/masculine/queer.
My experience of femininity has been partially very traditional - I feel most feminine in skirts/dresses with my hair down, cooking elaborate dinners for my partner, and taking my sweet ass time with esoteric beauty rituals (makeuppp i love makeup). It also encompasses what is the opposite of “traditional” femininity; certain forms of aggression/assertiveness and Handling My Own Shit And Being A Damn Adult also feel very feminine (everything from getting in the faces of street harassers to handling bills and my work - I feel v feminine at work, inexplicably).
I haven’t even begun to approach pronouns re: my own personal self. What even is gender? Is it a “feeling”? A presentation? A body? A desire? A perception? An intersection of all of these? Who the fuck knows dude some days I just feel more like a plant than a woman/man.
xoxo ~lil succulent~
It’s always nice to know that other people wonder about and struggle with the same kinds of questions. Especially when most of the people I know in person don’t ever seriously think about this kind of stuff.